How did you celebrate Mother’s Day this past weekend? Did you call your mom or take her out to brunch? If you are a mom, maybe you were treated to breakfast in bed or a beautiful bouquet of flowers. Over the holiday weekend, CNN decided to shine a light on one group of moms that we may not think about too often – those women who raised convicted sex offenders.
Have you ever thought about what it must be like to live every day with the fact that a molester or a rapist or a hoarder of child pornography was brought up in your home? I imagine the guilt must be a daily emotion, as well as the painful tug of wanting to protect your son or daughter. Do you still think of the adult criminal as the innocent-looking young child from school photos that you have framed in your living room?
The article features some gripping interviews with mothers who have paid mortgages on homes for their sons to live in permitted zones upon release from prison, who have had their marriages torn apart over arguments about how to deal with a child facing very serious charges, and who now replay every second of their parenting efforts to figure out where they went wrong. The article also points out that when the sex offense involves violence, it is not unusual to learn the perpetrator witnessed his mom as the victim of violence in the family home.
Do you have a natural inclination when you think about the moms of sex offenders?
Are there certain assumptions you make about their parenting?
Or, do you believe the theory of nature wins out over nurture in what these sons . . . and sometimes daughters . . . chose to do?
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